Last Friday I went for a haircut and I don’t mean a trim. I had them take at least ten inches off and I feel like a totally different person! I asked the lady for an asymmetrical bob and although I wish it were a little longer in the front I am in love with it. I can’t complain – I am cheap and went to the local Fantastic Sams where they charged $30 for a cut and style. I wouldn’t have even had them style it but the lady said she would need to style it to make sure the cut was right (well then by all means style it honey).
Being a mom this haircut was more than just a trip to the salon for me – it was about re-identifying myself. Sometimes I feel like as moms we give 110% of ourselves to our families and forget to take time for ourselves. Before we know it we aren’t the happy, carefree moms we want to be anymore. Here we are just trapped in a body which is trapped in a daily routine that involves taking care of everyone else's needs and wants and putting our own needs and wants on the back burner. We don’t even recognize the person in the mirror anymore. At least for me I feel like once I had more kids and especially after I started working from home I gradually stopped doing things alone or for myself. From stopping into Starbucks, to doing my hair and makeup to going to the bathroom I was and am NEVER alone. I always have a little person or two… or three… that are at my heels.
As I ride the emotional hormonal pregnancy roller coaster I sat at home last Friday while my husband was doing a side job for a little extra money thinking to myself that I can’t live this way anymore. Nobody is going to fly into my life and put a pile of money on my lap to hire a nanny, hire a maid or change the fact that I have let myself go unnoticed behind my kids and husband. I decided I needed a change and it was going to start with a drastic hair cut. I know it might sound a little crazy but it was almost as if I was rebranding myself – I am no longer going to let myself be the mom that doesn’t have time to do her hair as she rushes the kids to school looking a bit like a slob. I will no longer talk myself out of doing something for ME because my husband might have to watch the kids for a few hours. I will no longer be the one who takes on more than she can handle so others can do less. I WILL be the mom who adds more structure to bedtime, bath time and morning routines. I WILL be the mom who is a bad guy because she makes her kids eat dinner in their rooms when they can’t finish cleaning it in a timely manner. I WILL do what it takes to be a happy and healthy mom and I will do it all for myself.
In no way am I saying go out and chop all of your hair off – but I hope that this post inspires at least one mom to do something for herself. As moms there is this unspoken code of understanding and weather you work in the home or outside of the home we are all fighting a similar battle of not giving ourselves the credit we deserve or taking the time we need to be the best moms that we can.
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